According to Patrick Morley, author of Man in the Mirror and a disciple-maker, men basically want three main things:

A CAUSE: Something we can give our lives to. A mission. We have the need to be significant; to make a difference; to know that our lives will count; that it will matter we lived.

A COMPANION: Someone to share life with. We have the need to love and be loved; to be part of a community; to find acceptance; to have healthy relationships. By nature men want a woman to love, protect, and provide for. We want someone to share our lives with.

A CONVICTION: A system, narrative, story, or worldview that offers a reasonable explanation for why these first two are so difficult. Life is difficult and, for sanity's sake, we each need a plausible explanation of how the bits and pieces of life all fit together.

There's certainly a lot more to being a man, but these three are at our core.